You Find What You Are Looking For
Have you ever noticed when one thing goes sideways, it seemslike EVERYTHING feels negative?
The other day a client called and said they STILL could not pay my invoice (over 2 months late at this point) because of some internal administrative issues.
I was fuming.
I’m out several thousand dollars to a vendor I have already paid, in conjunction with this engagement, plus, as a solopreneur, I rely on client income to cover my day-to-day bills.
If I’m being really honest, I was also probably a little pissed that I had delivered what they described as a great workshop, and yet, they still couldn’t get their act together take care of my invoice.
I left my home office in a bit of a huff and it seemed nothing was going my way.
It felt like I hit every single red light on my way to mynext appointment.
And, what was it, a full moor or something? Why was every driver on the road was an idiot?
And, of course, to just top off my day, there was a train coming RIGHT when Iwas trying to cross the tracks.
I could feel my breaths getting shorter, my hands were white knuckling the steering wheel and there was a shooting pain in my right hip.
What was going on?
I was VERY busy looking for what was wrong instead of what was right. I walked out my front door fully triggered which, according to Healthline, impacted my ability to be present.
Did I miss every red light and was everyone an idiot on the road? Likely not – I was so angry about my client, I was projecting onto my environment. And, while the train guards did indeed come down, it didn’t have any other meaning than a train was coming, which, by the way, passed momentarily.
I was looking for things to be negative / bad / out of sorts.
So, they were.
How do you get out of that state? A few things helped me that day.
· Once I got to my destination, I took several deep breaths
· Then, I took some time to focus on a few things that I was grateful for that day
· Before I went in for my next appointment I walked around the block, stretched my arms over my head and rolled my neck around
Once you get back to a neutral state – you get to choose.
Will you look for what is wrong or what is right?
