From the Ashes
What’s the hardest thing you’ve lived through?
For me on the personal front, it was getting divorced.
It crushed me for a while.
I was so used to being able to make things work, through the sheer force of my will, but could not save that relationship, that I became a shell of myself.
In some ways, it spilled over into my work life and led to one of the hardest things professionally that I’ve lived through, losing a job.
I’ve detailed how the two are connected in other posts, but the biggest lesson from both of these experiences?
It is how we pick ourselves up after a stumble that provides that biggest opportunities for growth.
How does this happen? Unfortunately, there is no short cut. There is no pretending reality isn’t at our doorstep. There is no meditating yourself away from this pain or buying your way out.
The only way out is through.
And “through” kinda sucks.
Through means
· When all you want to do is pretend this thing isn’t happening, through is dealing with the reality of your situation
· It also means digging deep on feelings and emotions. If your go-to emotion is anger(or sadness, or hopelessness, or whatever), push beyond that emotion to seewhat else is there. Most importantly,expressing your feelings is critical to moving through them.
· During a time when you might want to grasp dearly for control, through often means relinquishing control
· And, through means taking responsibility foryour part in it.
Why do all of this?
The other side is the proverbial rising from the ashes that transforms us into something we couldn’t have even imagined.
